The Jelly Bean is a fairly super cool human being. We all know this, me included/especially, however, sometimes I am surprised and awed by just how cool. Just how encouraging. Just how amazing this dude actually continues to be.
I don't compare the Bean to others. Clarification, I try not to do so. I guess sometimes a diagnosis of one form or another, allows parents to just let their kids be, to allow their kids to find what it is that they want to do, some parents do this anyway. Some parents choose not to believe or allow a diagnosis to get in the way. Some people, parents and the diagnosed, use the diagnosis as an excuse for not trying, or as a boost to try harder.
I'm not really sure which one we fit into.
In some ways, on some days, I'm both. The Jelly Bean is both.
I am not judging or assuming I understand anyone else's journey or path or decisions. Most often, I don't even understand my own.
All I know is that one particular Bean who happens to be my particular off spring, who may also have a diagnosis of something that may or may not allow people to 'let him be' or accept his behaviour or push him further has taught me to check out each situation for what it is. To figure it all out a day at a time. To learn from difficulties. And often to make similar mistakes over and over.
But in saying all of that, confusing and vague as it all feels (and I wrote it), my Bean is surprising and cool.
I've said that already, haven't I?
I'm proud because in the past two weeks he has:
- received his class' Student of the Week award. It was awarded to him for "always concentrating and being kind to his classmates"
- received one of only six 'Principal's Award' stickers distributed by the principal at his school for writing 'my' and 'cat'
- played with new friends
- calmed himself down when a metldown was imminent
- read three books with little assistance
- learned all twelve of his current list of new words
But I was, in fact, the MOST proud when he put on goggles, ear plugs and a special head band (in protecting his grommet ears) and swam in the ocean for ages AND the next day, jumped in and out of my friend's pool, swimming across the length for HOURS. Requesting, even, after dinner, to return to the pool.
This Bean has been so scared of water in the past couple of months, since returning from our holiday, that he wouldn't even put his feet in.
In some ways I'm nonplussed about the awards and accolades and stickers.
HE JUMPED IN THE WATER!! LOTS!!
Things The Bean has said:
1.
TB: If we didn't call is 'twenty second' it would be called 'twenty twoth'. Get it? Twoth - like your teeth?! Hahahahaha
2.
TB: Sometimes, I play with Crystal at school. She's my spare friend.
3.
TB: We have to wear a hat outside, Mama, otherwise we will get hit by sun bullets.
4
TB: A hurricane is not actually part of the sea, it does go round and round and round, but the water is going into a cloud. The hurricane is a cloud storm.
5.
TB: 'N' has Asperger's. 'Cause it always says no.
6.
TB: Evil Sharks have Asperger's 'cause they don't like prickly things.
7.
TB: I''m so glad that when I'm older and I finish school and have done all that hard work. I will be very tired but then I'll be a human.
8.
TB: I really think about stuff, Mama. I think about nature and the universe and I think about everything.
Me: Hahahahah
TB: Why is that funny?
Me: I dunno.
TB: Then don't laugh.
9. With his Aunty Lee bean-sitting.
AL: Did you wash your bottom and your dangle in the shower?
TB: Yes.... Um, I didn't actually wash my dangle properly.
AL: But your mama said you had to wash your dangle properly.
TB: Don't worry, I'll do it next shower.
10: David Attenborough is on the telly - I'm in the kitchen, listening but not watching..
DA talks about 'Shearwaters'.
Me: They're birds aren't they?
TB: Yeah, and they share the ocean with lots of other animals. That's why they're called shearwaters. See 'share'?
11.
TB: Pockets are fun aren't they?
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